This post was originally titled “Self-Management.” While that term still accurately describes the contents, I changed the title to “Self-Control” since it is a more biblical word (at least in the NASB).
This is a subsidiary post of The Deeds of the Flesh Versus the Fruit of the Spirit.
Our lives are the composite of our words and deeds. Therefore, we control our lives by controlling our words and deeds. Actually, the focus should be even more on our words, because through them we can control our deeds (James 3:2, 3). And the way to control the mouth is to control the heart (Luke 6:45). For this reason, heart and mouth should be where the focus of our self-control is placed.
The literal term “self-control” occurs in 8 verses of the NASB (once as “self-controlled” – Titus 1:8), and all are included in the list that follows. They are marked with an asterisk.
Matthew 7:3-5 – See also 1 Timothy 4:16 below.
Romans 2:21 – Yes, teach yourself. Remind yourself. Exhort yourself.
*1 Corinthians 7:5
*1 Corinthians 7:9
*1 Corinthians 9:25 – We should exercise self-control in all things. This means will, heart, mouth, and body. For through the mouth we control the body, through the heart we control the mouth, and through the will we control the heart.
1 Corinthians 15:10 – The grace of God is something that we receive and act upon. Otherwise, we’re just receiving it in vain (2 Corinthians 6:1). It’s not as if we are passive bystanders to the grace of God. It’s not as if God is working in our lives independent of our involvement. We are to do something with the grace of God. The apostle Paul certainly did something with the grace given to him.
Galatians 6:1 – We must guard ourselves against temptation, even when we are trying to help someone else who is sinning.
1 Timothy 4:7 – Discipline yourself so that others do not have to do so. When you were a child, your parents disciplined you. They raised you so that you could discipline yourself.
1 Timothy 4:16 – We must pay attention to ourselves so that we can remove any logs from our own eyes: see Matthew 7:2-5 above.
*2 Timothy 3:3
James 4:10 – Let us humble ourselves that we might be humbled by anyone else (Luke 14:10, 11).
1 Peter 5:6 – See James 4:10 above.
*2 Peter 1:6
Psalm 50:23 – It’s the one who orders his way – not everyone else’s way – who will see the salvation of God.